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  • Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing – Or Is the Internet Just Obsessed With Men?

    by Marie Lang

    When British Vogue recently published an article asking, “Is having a boyfriend embarrassing?”, it set social media on fire. The piece explores a cultural shift: after years of “Boyfriend Land,” where a woman’s online identity revolved around her partner, many women are now doing the opposite so hiding or softly launching their relationships, cropping faces or blurring partners entirely.

    Online, the reaction split fast. On one side, TikTok users celebrated the article, praising independence and romantic anonymity. For them, being single fits the clean-girl, self-focused aesthetic. “A boyfriend just doesn’t match my vibe” some proclaim, treating being unattached as a status symbol.

    On the other side, users clapped back. Edits of smiling couples flooded feeds with captions like, “Sorry Vogue, but having a boyfriend is only embarrassing if he’s a loser.” Many argued people misunderstood the article entirely, stating it wasn’t anti-relationship but simply that having a boyfriend is only embarrassing if you’re centering him above yourself.

    What’s fascinating isn’t whether having a boyfriend is cringe but why the internet cares so much either way. Ironically, both sides prove the point: those flexing independence and those loudly defending love still revolve around the same orbit – men. Treating a boyfriend as a status symbol or treating not having one as a statement still keeps men at the center of the narrative.

    So maybe the real question isn’t, “Is having a man embarrassing?” but rather, “Why are we still defining ourselves in relation to men at all?”

    In the end, do what you want: hard-launch him. Soft-launch him. Never launch him. Just remember: if a man is still the focal point of your conversation, you’re not the main character yet.

  • York’s best Christmas windows

    York’s best Christmas windows

    By Trinity Killian

    With Christmas being just around the corner, I embarked on a journey through the streets of York to find some of the prettiest shop windows in town! Join me as I show you some of the best picks as well as honourable mentions from my trip.

    The Imaginarium (6 Blake St, York YO1 8QG)

    The Imaginarium is one shop from a string of niche small businesses scattered around York. It belongs to the Yorkshire Soap Company and they are known to captivate passer-by’s with their maximalist displays all year round.

    If you decide to venture inside and get lost in their array of eccentric homeware, do continue walking to the back of the store, because it hides a magical corner called ‘The Christmas Room’.

    The Yorkshire Soap (10 Blake Street, York YO1 8QG)

    Next door to The Imaginarium resides the enchanting Yorkshire Soap shop. You surely won’t miss this one as the facade is painted in a vibrant bubblegum pink and their windows are full of cuteness and extravagance.

    I particularly enjoy the large candy canes next to the Santa Claus animatronic (yes, he moves)!

    Born Of Botanics (14 Stonegate, York YO1 8AS)

    This beautiful aromatherapy shop on Stonegate made me ‘aww’ out loud because of how adorable this window display was. It’s very nicely colour coordinated and there is great attention to detail. I particularly enjoyed those little elf legs wriggling about in the second picture. You can see them move in an Instagram post below.

    Nutcracker Christmas Shop (32 Shambles, York Y01 7LX)

    A very classic display that does its job of creating a Christmas fantasy very well. Nutcracker Christmas Shop goes by the motto ‘It’s Christmas every day!’ and they mean it. Although the store is open year-round, it goes all out on decoration during the festive season. I have never seen so many unique tree ornaments!

    Bradley’s Jewellers (67 Low Petergate, York YO1 7HY)

    Family owned and family run jewellery business in the heart of York near the beautiful York Minster. This family loves a good Christmas wreath, the exterior is very pretty.

    Honourable mentions

    Søstrene Grene (6 Nessgate, York YO1 9FY)

    This one was a bit tricky to capture due to all the reflections in the large glass window, but I tried my best. This large display was like looking into a cozy living room space on Christmas day, with a lit fireplace, large decorated tree and plenty of presents. Søstrene Grene is a Danish affordable home goods store.

    British Heart Foundation (14-15 Bridge Street, York YO1 6DA)

    This one wasn’t so much about the window display as it was about the adorable volunteer outside the shop fundraising for British Heart Foundation. I approached him and asked if it’s alright for me to take a photo and he said yes! Who needs a Santa animatronic when you can have the real deal?

    Fancy Dance Shop (35 Micklegate, York YO1 6JH)

    How unique is that? I know! This has got to be one of the most creative Christmas themed shop windows in town. In another window next to this one was a tree with ballet flats as ornaments. They are really staying true to being a shop focused on dance equipment.

    And that concludes my mission in York. I hope you like my selection, I’m looking forward to what the local shops will come up with next year.

    Please consider supporting these small businesses this festive season!

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  • 5 top tips on how to unwind!

    By Jessica Wheatley

    Self – care is the most important action anyone can take. In a society where people are expected to work long hours and the pressure to be constantly productive, we lose touch with the simple side of life and what is really important to us. This is why self-care is important as it improves your mental health and physical health and is a way to take a break from the fierce world, a simple activity that indulges you for a moment in a peaceful space and takes the pressure of your shoulders. Self-care activities can help reduces stress, increase resilience and boosts your mind in a positive manor. The meaning of self-care is taking time to immerse yourself into a tranquil space where your mind and body can relax completely and allow your mind to burst with joy. Below are 5 tips on how to unwind and indulge in self-care.

    1. Immerse yourself with nature

    Daily walking has been proven to increase people’s mental health. Thirty minutes a day is all you need to soak up some fresh air and take in the sights and paths that you pass every day but are always to busy to appreciate the simple side of life.

    2. Light up a cosy candle

    Lighting a cosy candle can help reduce stress in many different ways. The low light from the candle quickly captures a calming sensation that is sent to the brain to allow instant relaxation and a sense of meditation that symbolises comfort, purity and can help increase sleep. The brand Neom Wellbeing is here to help when it comes to wellbeing. It’s brand purpose is to create calming products through small steps to make a BIG change, there mission is to supercharge the wellbeing of our community and planet, creating a happier space. Neom sells products such as a range of candles in range scent to sleep, scent to de-stress, scent to make you happy to multiple diffuser scents from the cosy night in range, de-stress, the perfect peace and their happiness range. They also create products for your bath & body to immerse yourself fully into a relaxing space and essential oils to burn around your home and surround your space with calming scents. @Neomwellbeing

    3. Yoga

    Yoga is a practice that involves deep stretching, breathing exercises and meditation to help improve mental health and wellbeing. Yoga originated over 5,000 years ago in Northern India. There are over 12 different styles of Yoga that you can practice. However, Yin Yoga is the one to be practiced when you are feeling stressed out. Rebecca Gillham from the Women’s Health magazine suggest that Yin Yoga is the one to practice when you need to rewind and feel your body relax https://www.womenshealthmag.com/uk/fitness/yoga/a700152/yin-yoga/. Yin Yoga is a slow-paced style of Yoga where postures are held between 3-5 minutes. To help you sink into the different poses there is different props to use to help support the body and allow you to relax and sink into the yoga positions and let gravity to its work. These props consist of soft cushions and blocks. Yin Yoga helps improve mindfulness, reduces anxiety and stress, improves flexibility and elongates your muscles to stretch. Yin Yoga is also a style of Yoga that fits everyone. ‘if you’re hypermobile in certain areas of your body and already have plenty of space around your joints, Yin must be practised with caution,’ says Louise de Menthon, yoga teacher and founder of Loup Yoga. Overall, Yoga is one of the most effective ways to reduce stress and anxiety. @Womenshealthuk

    4. Curl up with a comfort film!

    It is commonly known that almost everyone has their favourite Tv show, film or book. Curling up with your comfort show after a long day out the house Is a way to feel warm and safe allowing your mind and body to relax and focus on something you love. Watching the same film/show over and over again increases your perceptual fluency, this is when the brain processes a feeling or physical activity quicker and easier than it would with something new, the part of the brain lights up when you feel nostalgia and finding comfort in something. People with Anxiety tend to feel the need to rewatch a show because when the brain is constantly overwhelmed, we need to emotionally regulate our feeling and create a sense of calmness and suffocate the feeling of being lonely and not belonging. Watching the same show also means you are not loading anything else onto the brain, watching the same show can also re-energize and restore self-control. Therefore, rewatching a comfort show after a hard day will slow your brain down and restore happiness and comfort that has been lost.

    5. Avoid technology

    Gen- z may feel the need to ‘rot in bed’ after a stressful day. ‘Rotting in bed’ is a term that has been generated by Gen-z, it means spending a significant amount of time in bed scrolling on their phone, eating and taking long naps. However, there are negative effects to taking part in this trend such as depression and anxiety, bed sores, blood clots and a sense of being overwhelmed from scrolling on your phone and frustrating your mind and body. This is why it is important to engage in activities that stimulate the mind whilst relaxing. Some activities include, reading a book to fully engage the mind and transform yourself into another world, meditating, knitting and jigsaw. These activities stimulate the mind to become relaxed yet enjoyable and avoid blue light and screen time which can cause the brain to become stressed.

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  • Let’s Spend Less Time On Our Phones in 2025

    Let’s Spend Less Time On Our Phones in 2025

    by Jasmine Ely

    With the new year approaching, it’s that time of year again when we’re recounting our achievements and setting new year’s resolutions. An increasing number of New Years Resolutions appear to surround the topic of screen-time.

    For Example: 

    • “Spend less time on my phone”
    • “Be more present” 
    • “I feel like I’m always working” 

    So, why can’t we put our phones down? I’ve interviewed a couple of university students to pin down the answer. 

    How many hours a day would you say you spend on your phone?

    A – I would probably say I spend 3 or 4 hours on my phone each day.

    K – Maybe, 5 hours. I think it changes day-to-day. 

    What do you primarily use your phone for?

    A – Social Media and Entertainment. I mostly watch TikTok and use Instagram, I get most of my news from these apps but also watch them for my own entertainment. Trouble is, when I start scrolling, I get sucked-in and I’m on there for hours. 

    K – Keeping up to date with my friends on Snapchat or Instagram. Since coming to university, I’ve tried to make more of an effort to keep in contact with my friends although we’re all spread out across the country. 

    What motivates you to pick up your phone the most?

    A – Boredom. If I’m not doing something spending time on my phone fills that gap. 

    K – Habit. It’s always in my hand or pocket. I find myself reaching for it for a scroll without even thinking about it and rarely for anything important. 

    Do you feel pressure to be online or respond to messages quickly?

    A – I wouldn’t say I feel pressured to be online as I don’t post on social media, I’m very much a silent viewer. However, I do think it is polite to respond to messages quickly. 

    K – Yes, if someone messages me, I always reply when I first see it. I don’t want to appear rude.

    Do you think your phone usage is typical of other people in your generation? 

    A – Roughly, I think I’m on the lower side. I don’t use social media as much as others as I choose not to share my life online. I enjoy looking at what others are up to though.

    K – I would imagine so; I would consider myself a middle ground in my friendship group.

    If you had to give up your phone for a week, how do you think it would affect your daily life?

    A – Quite a lot. Since moving away from home for university, I use it to communicate with my family and friends. I would say that as a means of communication I need my phone.

    K – I think I would be more proactive in getting jobs done around the house. I think I spend a lot of time on my phone when I could be doing something useful. I would however miss knowing what everyone is up to.

    Have you ever felt like your phone use was too much? 

    A – Yeah, if I have no plans, I use it to fill time. I could be using that time to be more productive, but sometimes I don’t and would rather relax on my phone. 

    K – For sure. I’ve never done anything about it though. Maybe I should. 

    Is there anything about your phone habits that you would like to change?

    A – Not really, I think I have a healthy relationship with my phone. I turn off notifications at times to give myself a break. 

    K – I could do with using my phone less and making more of an effort to connect in person with those located close by to me. 

    How do you think your phone usage might change as you get older?

    A – I think I will use it more for work and just to communicate with people. When I work full-time, I won’t have as much time spend using it for entertainment.

    K – I don’t see it changing that much to be honest. Maybe when I have more responsibilities, I will have less time to spend doom-scrolling.

    Here’s what we’ve learnt:

    • Short Attention Span

    We unlock our phones at the first sign of boredom. Whether that to watch short-form video on TikTok, play mobile games, or scroll on social media.  

    • The Algorithm Trap

    Social media platforms are designed to keep us engaged, entertained and most importantly online on the app. The downside is that when we start scrolling, we just can’t stop. 

    • Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO) 

    Having grown up in today’s digital world, we’ve never been disconnected.  Fancy knowing what your friend had for dinner last night? Simply check their stories. Although our interconnectedness can be fun, it’s so easy to develop FOMO. 

    Do you relate? Could you cut down your screen time for a bit of me time. We’ve developed a quiz to help you determine a productive use of your time. 

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